Pema Chodron Quotes

Pema Chodron (born 1936), American Tibetan Buddhist nun, is the principal teacher at Gampo Abbey in Nova Scotia. Former student of Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche, she is known for making Buddhist teachings accessible through books like "When Things Fall Apart."

Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth.
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The spiritual journey is not about heaven and finally getting to a place that's really swell.
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Life is glorious, but life is also wretched. It is both. Appreciating the gloriousness inspires us, encourages us, cheers us up, gives us a bigger perspective, energizes us. We feel connected. But if that's all that's happening, we get arrogant and start to look down on others, and there is a sense of making ourselves a big deal and being really serious about it, wanting it to be like that forever. The gloriousness becomes tinged by craving and addiction. On the other hand, wretchedness--life's painful aspect--softens us up considerably. Knowing pain is a very important ingredient of being there for another person.
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The truth you believe and cling to makes you unavailable to hear anything new.
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Meditation practice isn't about trying to throw ourselves away and become something better. It's about befriending who we are already.
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The trick is to keep exploring and not bail out, even when we find out that something is not what we thought.
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The greatest obstacle to connecting with our joy is resentment.
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When things fall apart and we're on the verge of we know not what, the test of each of us is to stay on that brink and not concretize.
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Feelings like disappointment, embarrassment, irritation, resentment, anger, jealousy, and fear, instead of being bad news, are actually very clear moments that teach us where it is that we're holding back.
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We don't set out to save the world; we set out to wonder how other people are doing and to reflect on how our actions affect other people's hearts.
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The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.
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Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible be found in us.
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We think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don't really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It's just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.
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Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It's a relationship between equals.
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Rejoicing in ordinary things is not sentimental or trite. It actually takes guts.
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The root of suffering is resisting the certainty that no matter what the circumstances, uncertainty is all we truly have.
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To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest.
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Sticking with uncertainty, getting the knack of relaxing in the midst of chaos, learning not to panic—this is the spiritual path.
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Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.
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If we learn to open our hearts, anyone, including the people who drive us crazy, can be our teacher.
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